Putting Yourself First

26 January 2015


Everybody has that one really complicated friendship or relationship. You know the kind, right? We have somebody in our lives who can literally do no wrong (at least in our eyes). Somebody who, no matter what happens, will always get the gift of us constantly defending them. As time goes by, we have constant battles within our own brains where we wonder WHY are we even bothering with somebody who doesn't deserve a single thought from us in the first place.

At the point of life that I'm in now, I've decided that this is when the decisions I'm making are going to start to really matter. This is when I am basically deciding my future - what I'm going to do, who I'm going to be, and most importantly, who I really want to surround myself with. Who am I going to rely on to make my life worth living?

I've decided that I want to make a more conscious effort to really consider who I am surrounding myself with. If I've learned one thing my whole life, it's that people aren't always who you want to believe they are. Discovering who somebody truly is can be one of the most heartbreaking things in the world. Nothing is more difficult than deciding to cut yourself off from somebody who you want so badly to just be different.

There comes a point in your adolescence (if 20 years old is even considered adolescence) where you have to cut the negative people out. You have to consciously end the cycles that exist in your life. You have to move on from people who are holding you back. You can't expect to see a change in your life if you are always doing the same things.

It takes a really big person to be able to realize what make ultimately makes you better. Sometimes it's hard and sometimes it's really, really messy, but in the end, I can bet you it's worth it.


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  1. This is such an important life lesson, and one that you'll have to remind yourself of time and again ;), but so worth it in the end!

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  2. This is something that will serve you well throughout your entire life and a good reminder for everyone!

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  3. i have had to do this before and it is hard!

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  4. Cutting ties with toxic friends / relationships is so hard but so worth it in the end!

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  5. This is a good reminder. It's hard to do but you'll be better off for it.

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  6. SUCH a good quote. I think we often only see the surface of people. This either causes us to think that their life is perfect, or that they are mean people. It can be hard to look past that!

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  7. I have to agree with all of this. It's so hard to be objective especially when that someone has been apart of your life for a long period of time. But you have to let go and trust that the right people will come into your life when they need to and soemtimes that can only happen when you let the wrong ones go.

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